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4 Reasons to Let Down Your Walls and Risk Love Again
Your past relationships don’t need to define your future
Jack had transformed himself into a player. In a period of two years, he dated 38 women and slept with a number of others. He was a nice guy doing a good impression of an asshole. I asked him what the deal was.
“I thought I was going to marry a girl… but she was just a user.”
He’d been used. His heart, shattered. Now he was the user.
When we’re hurt, one response is to swear we’ll never let it happen again. Heartbreak sucks! Why would you want to go there twice? Screw that, right?
We think we’re protecting ourselves from pain when we build walls up around our hearts. When I left my marriage, I had a choice to build those walls too. I made a conscious decision not to.
4 Reasons to Risk Love Again:
1. Heartbreak can heal
If we do things to move on, we can heal from heartbreak but only if we let ourselves be vulnerable. Building a tough wall around our fragile hearts doesn’t heal them — it keeps us in our pain. We need to feel the heartbreak, grieve, fill the gaps that our ex left, and let go.
