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4 Signs You’re Not Ready to Get Married
What I wish I’d known the first time around
My engagement to my first husband was a whirlwind. There were many reasons that we weren’t ready to get married and I remember my doubts at the time — but I pushed through them. I couldn’t call it off! The wedding was organised! The cake was ordered! The guests were invited! It all happened so fast. I needed to trust myself and slow things down, but I didn’t.
Married life can be challenging and sometimes there are things we need to do first to give it the best chances of success.
Here are 4 signs that you might not be ready to tie the knot just yet:
1. One of you is struggling with mental health issues (including addictions)
Many of us struggle with mental health issues. I’m certainly not saying everyone with depression, or anxiety, etc., shouldn’t get married. What I am saying, though, is if your mental health is not well treated and managed at the moment, then that is your priority right now — not planning a wedding.
It isn’t kind to yourself or you partner to get married while dealing with major mental health issues or addictions. Getting married won’t fix things. The stress of the wedding, if anything, could make it harder…
