6 Lies Lovers Tell That Make You Feel Trapped

Stop listening and find the truth about yourself

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“I don’t lie.”

That’s a lie we tell ourselves and our partners. We all lie. We lie when we say, “I’m fine” when we’re not. We lie when we tell them, “Don’t worry about it” when what they did upset us. Lovers lie to please each other, to avoid conflict, to say what’s easiest.

Good relationships are strengthened with hard, honest conversations and these small lies can do damage if left unchecked. But, most of the time, although it’s not good communication, they are relatively minor.

Then there are the other lies we tell each other — the ones that make a big difference long-term.

Here are 6 relationship fibs that can make you feel trapped and what to do about them:

1. “You’re not that attractive.”

You’ve probably heard of Gaslighting. It’s a technique used to wear people down, control, and manipulate them. At the extreme end it’s a serious form of abuse, but it can also be done in subtle ways that you hardly notice.

One trait of a gas-lighter is constantly pointing out your flaws. I had a boyfriend for a few months who was usually sweet and gave me plenty of compliments. He also threw random…