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Do You Really Want to Date THAT Girl?
Sometimes the necessary and best thing is to let a person go
“She’s fun and pretty.” My friend turned his phone around to show me the girl he’d been dating for a few weeks.
I could tell by his tone it wasn’t going well —
“But?” I asked.
“It’s complicated. She’s got a lot of issues.”
My friend’s a nice guy. He’s worked hard on himself — on his own personal development and emotional maturity — and he’s ready to find the one. Sound anything like you? Unfortunately, not every lovely girl (or guy) you meet is going to be ready for a relationship.
Three dating dynamics to avoid:
Relationships can fall into unhealthy patterns, even if you’re both wonderful people.
1. The rescue effort
They’re chaotic, sad, addicted, or needs help, and you’re the knight in shining armor. Both men and women can fall into the rescuer role. It’s tempting to see someone who’s vulnerable and want to help them, especially if you’re a nice person, like my friend.
If they had you to protect, support, and listen to their problems, things would get better, right? Maybe, but probably not.
