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Early Signs They’re Not “The One” for You
If these three happen, it’s time to move on
It’s their second date and Sienna has her legs pulled up under her, a scowl on her face, and her full attention on her phone.
When Matt’s flat-mate arrives home the tension in the room is noticeable.
“I thought you were going out tonight?”
Matt rolls his eyes towards Sienna, sitting across the lounge from him. “She had a bad day.” He shrugs and his flat-mate offers a sympathetic nod.
Four weeks later, Sienna is still in a bad mood. Even a wrong look from Matt sets off an argument and sends their date into cold-war zone.
Matt’s friends could see from date number two that Sienna wasn’t the right girl for him, but it took him over a month to break it off. Like many of us, Matt is feeling lonely and, in his mid-twenties, he’s keen to find “the one.”
The problem is the longer you spend dating the wrong one, the more time you waste. But loneliness is hard, so you stay in relationships you know won’t last. You stay because they’re attractive. You stay because you’re worried there won’t be anyone else. You stay because you’re sick of being single. All the while missing out on opportunities to find a better match.
