Hi, not quite sure what you’re getting at with the “only, you haven’t” comment? If you met me you’d know that I’m certainly not the “cool girl” and though I wrote about this issue in quite a light way, it definitely feels more stressful in real life. Your situation of being some guys “booty call” sounds completely different to this situation. I know it’s hard to think of a guy as a “victim” in a stalking situation but there is an increasing percentage of stalkers who are women with men as their targets. Being stalked is no less stressful for the male victims than it is for female. Let’s not victim blame.