How to flirt with your crush
And still be a strong, independent woman
I never liked flirting tips. All that hair flicking, lip licking, running your fingers suggestively up and down the stem of a wine glass….In my twenties my friends and I played them out for our own entertainment, but we cringed at the thought of actually using them for their intended man-pulling purposes. I spent my time around smart, strong, independent women and we felt flirting techniques like that were the mark of ditsy barbie-girls.
So when I was told last year that I was “quite a flirt”, I was surprised and, well, a bit offended.
“How am I a flirt?” I asked.
“I don’t know, you just are,” he replied with a cheeky smile.
I started to ask my friends about flirting and to take a look at what it was people were picking up as flirty behaviour. What was it men were responding to?
Warm Confidence
After my divorce, I did a lot of work on myself and on carving out a new, more positive life. My career was blossoming, I was getting back into sport and climbing, I felt strong and fit, I was optimistic about the future, and I had a great new group of friends that I was enjoying. When I met guys I came into the conversation with this thought in my head: “I’m an awesome person” but also “You seem like…
