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How to Mindfully Decide if They’re “The One”
It’s too important to rush
Danielle had been in a series of terrible relationships. Her last one ended a few years ago when she discovered he was cheating on her. I’ve known Danielle a long time and she’s an intelligent, thoughtful woman. She thinks carefully about her choices and is mindful in every area of her life, except in her relationships.
Danielle falls in love quickly — often at first sight — and lets her heart rather than her head make all the decisions in love. But after the cheater, she’d had enough. She decided it was time to apply mindfulness to her love life too.
You can be mindful in love just like any other area of your life. Falling in love and choosing a partner can be a decision you make with both your heart and your mind. Mindfulness is just a term for being aware; noticing your thoughts, feelings, body, and what’s going on in the present moment.
Here are 6 things to help you slow down and mindfully decide if the person you’re dating is the one you want to invest in long-term.
1. It’s not infatuation.
It’s hard to see your relationship clearly until you pass the infatuation stage.
Danielle often started to talk about marriage in the first few months of her…
