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Leaving Your Relationship Can Mean Losing Friends Too
It sucks but it’s actually okay
It’s not an easy decision to leave a long-term relationship. 70% of the time, it’s the women who end up leaving marriages. Even if your relationship has been toxic or abusive, there’s this strange thing that happens: The person who leaves becomes the villain.
People say they won’t take sides but it’s human nature. We can’t help making judgments on who was right or wrong, even though it’s really none of our business.
If you’ve left your relationship, don’t be surprised if your friends and family react in unexpected ways.
Friends or frenemies?
When I left my marriage two years ago, I thought the most painful part would be ending the relationship. What happened blindsided me. People appeared from everywhere with opinions: friends, acquaintances, and family got involved in our break up and the majority sided with my ex.
After the initial shock passed, I did some research. What I was experiencing wasn’t all that uncommon.
4 Friends You’ll Lose During A Breakup
Concern trolls
Tara Blair Ball describes this nicely in her article on Concern Trolls:
