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The “Magic Word” Ratio is the #1 Reason Love Lasts
According to Gottman’s research
“Cusp, that’s a nice word.” — Miranda
My new husband and I agree with UK comedian Miranda Hart that “cusp” and “plunge” are nice words to say. Try them out. Nice, right? It’s become a bit of a joke between us. But, as a newly married couple, we are in fact conscious of our word choices with each other. Especially when we have conflict over an issue.
Both of us have experienced past relationships where not-nice words dominated conversations far too often. We found ourselves asking, “What went wrong?” Perhaps you have too.
You were compatible. Both of you loved watching Marvel movies or going hiking. You were committed to make it work. Your relationship was exclusive, you moved in together or got married. Isn’t that enough?
It’s what we’re told matters: first compatibility and then commitment. They’re the two big aspects of relationships constantly argued about in the media. What matters more? According to relationship research, neither of them are enough to make your love last.
After over 30 years of research into what makes relationships work, the Gottman Institute found that it’s the day-to-day stuff we need to pay attention to.
“It’s not who you are or…
