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Your Success in Love Depends on How Honest You’re Willing to Be With Yourself
Are you causing communication issues in your love life?
The phone rings and my ex’s name flashes across the screen. My heart rate rises back to where it was 20 minutes earlier when we were mid text argument and I’d decided I needed a break to calm down. My daughter grabs the phone and answers before I can protest. “Dad wants to talk to you,” she says. I shake my head. “I’m working.” It’s true. I am. Even more true is I’m in no state to talk with him, especially in front of my kids.
For the last two years since my divorce, I’ve been taking a hard, honest look at myself. What I saw wasn’t always comfortable, but it was necessary.
When a relationship breaks down you get a choice. You choose where you put your energy. You can spend it feeling like a victim. You can spend it angry and bitter. You can spend it wishing things were different and trying to get them back.
I decided to put my energy into myself. I focused on what I needed and wanted to change post-divorce.
I was determined to be real with myself — everyone plays a part in a relationship breakdown, no matter how bad the other person was, and there were lessons I could learn. I was determined to be successful in love the…
